To Love What Is: A Marriage Transformed by Alix Kates Shulman

     Second marriages can be such a blessing. There is not enough time in any lifetime to be with that special someone, but second marriages have even less time.  Scott and Alix have already lived through one serious heart episode that Scott suffered, but this time a fall from a loft causes lots more damage.  Alix has to struggle with caring for him 24/7, trying to help his brain heal and work better after severe head trauma.  Their daily life takes a huge change of direction for them both.  But he’s not aware of all they’ve lost as he lives in the moment, but she lives with the loss, trying to maintain their standard of living, keep contact with friends and family, and having to watch out for him every minute, even in the bathroom.  What happens to love when nothing else is the same?  A great book.  As we baby boomers gray and become the dreaded word, ‘elderly,’ it’s a whole new ballgame.  Highly recommended. 10/10.